Dealing with the Devil

When you think of family, you think of people who love you, support you and are always there for you. To me family doesn't mean they have to be blood related. I have friends that I consider part of my family, that I am closer to than some people that are blood related to me. The people I care about most are my family!

I married my husband because I loved him and I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. We had already been through hell before we got married, dealing with both of our exes and the issues they caused for us and our kids. We stuck by each other through all the stress and even through the arguments we had over some of those issues. He's been my rock and I love him for that!

Since we have been married, his family has caused me much pain, sorrow, aggravation and stress. I have tried to deal with them. When we get together with them, I either sit there and don't say a word or I stay in the room with the kids and play with them. I am totally uncomfortable around them. I really wish I didn't have to be around them ever. Needless to say, I don't see these people as my family. They have never been there for me, they have never tried to get to know me.  They have only ever caused me grief.

On Sunday night, my husband went to talk to his sister. She claims she has no issues with me whatsoever. She claims she likes me, she's just been busy for the past 8 years and didn't have time to get to know me. She claims that she really wants to be close to me and wishes we had more time to hang out. My MIL claims she also has nothing against me. They both claim there is no awkwardness when we get together with them. I find it funny that these people can make these claims and yet my FIL says my MIL and SIL feel like they are always under a microscope because they are worried that they will treat the kids differently again. He said some other stuff too that shows that they have issues.

My SIL and MIL always lie. My MIL lied to my SIL and BIL years ago when she claimed I was being mean to her because I wanted her to treat my son better. She got her whole family against me and they all stopped talking to us for years. They lied to my husband on Monday night when they said there were no issues. I say this for several reasons:

1. My MIL and SIL are very cold towards me. We could be in the same room for hours and they will ignore me, make snide comments, and act like they are better then me.
2. My friends, whenever they are here when my SIL picks up her son or at parties for my kids, can see the awkwardness and the lack of communication between us.
3. My MIL favors my step-son and nephew, but both kids that I had, even the one I had with her son, are never priorities. She has no problems not seeing them for months. She never asks about my kids. And when they want to do something with us, they will only do it if my step-son is here.
4. You can sense the awkwardness, and my FIL and husband both feel it too. My FIL knows more than what he is saying, but he doesn't want to be in the middle so he won't come clean.
5. There are other reasons, but it's too much to type in one blog post!

My SIL uses her depression as her excuse for her actions. She claims she still has postpartum and that is why she acts the way she does. At least that's what she told my husband on Monday. I don't need to hear excuses. If you feel you still have issues a year after your child was born then you should get help! She wasn't being mean to anyone else at her son's party, so the depression excuse isn't going to fly.

I wanted to be close to them. I tried to be close to them. It's never going to happen. A part of me thinks my SIL and MIL are the devil. They are just so evil and they care about no one but themselves. My FIL is going through hell right now because of the 2 of them. Maybe they don't have an issue with me.  Maybe they are just evil people!